I asked my self the core question for the first time in a long time "why are you blogging ?" and i answered because i can; in the sense that when things don't go the way i plan, my blog was the one thing i could truly and fully control.  I enjoy sharing my experiences, i try to create good writing and content that makes me smile after reading it again and combining an outfit came as second nature to me.
After proper analysis of my reason, i knew it wasn't something i was ready to give up yet, so i didn't and instead i told my friend why not do as much as you can for as long as you can do it and stay committed to all of it. Now she's about to restart her youtube channel, go for her NYSC use it as a medium to serve Nigeria/loose some weight and eventually work in media (keeping my fingers crossed that she gets her dream to be on the ebony life tv team)

If you got this far thanks for being interested in my Dr. Phil skills but this is where i talk fashion and if you are an avid follower of my style you have probably seen me in this jacket if you haven't here it is putting this outfit was a piece of cake that tasted even sweeter when i found i had a matching baker boy cap which i thrifted my last few days in Nigeria that took this simple outfit to fashion blogger status. So always look out for accessories to up your style game.

Do you enjoy working on your ideas even though there is a minuscule of dreading fear of the end result?
Does it feel like hard work?
Do you find yourself creating content because you want to stay relevant?
Do you not have what you feel are the “appropriate tools” to take you a step ahead?
Do you think if it was a contest based result you would best those influencers doing better than you?

Well if 3 out of 5 of your answers are YES then this personal expose is for you so continue to scroll, if you read the above without answering or being honest with yourself then please scroll back, read and determine if this if for you and if you came over here just to find out what’s up with me?… “I’m good love, enjoy”

You may be wondering why I’m tackling this issue head on, well I am an influencer who due to some reasons known and unknown to me has not done much influencing in a while, so as you can see by now this table I’m shaking I’m also standing on it.

Admitting your challenge/issue is the first step towards finding a solution, quote me and that is why I will be divulging some reasons why you are not influencing.

Firstly an influencer is someone that has the capacity to to impact or affect, whether you are an individual or a brand the ability to convince your audience is what makes you good influencer. Personally I like to think of it as being some sort role model to more than one person. I fyou agree with me so far than you will probably agree when I say the number one reason you are not influencing like you wish you were is

1. It’s a side job

Have you heard this saying ‘you always make out time for what really matters’ this is not to say what you are doing or content you are creating doesn’t really matter but if you have a day job the typical 9-5 and you have an idea to execute for content reasons the truth is you would most likely keep your idea aside and go to work or there will be repercussions. That’s what I mean by saying you are an influencer when its convinent for you and no that’s not a bad thing but you will not likely get better result than the person who does content creating full time.

2. Its sweet pain

Don’t be fooled by the prettiness you see with well curated instagram posts with captions to match and properly edited write ups. There is a pain that comes from doing something for the pleasure of others and yourself; it may be the late nights you have to keep working on a project, staring at your computer screen till your eyes tear up because the lights are not favourable at all, doing things you wouldn’t normally do for the process (I don’t want to write likes because that is very beneathing) and my all-time favourite running late to work almost on a daily basis because your passion kept you awake all night!
My point here is it can be a really burdensome process and the truth is sometimes we can’t stand the burden especially when you have put in so much and gotten little to none. To be an established influencer is to persevere continuously with and without recognition.

3. You are invested for all the wrong reasons.

If you judge your actions by the desire of everybody you become the influenced and not the influencer, yes its radical but it’s true. Several people with different opinons and background look up to you, imagine trying to impress each of these people’s thoughts or expectations of you? I have a template by which I handle this particular challenge and I will share it with you because it just might help someone out there, I think of creating content as;

4. Which brings me to probably the biggest reason; being Talented VS. being Hard working

You have to know the difference. Just like your day job vs. your passion, one keeps you fed and the other one keeps you going. The amount of work you put in when you are a born influencer even when you don’t play to be is less than the amount of work you put in when you want to be recognized as an influencer.

5. Your immediate surrounding is your most effective tool.

That’s why we have workspaces and stations, taking a stroll to clear your mind can upon you up to things, places and people you never knew existed or remembered. A notepad in the park on a Saturday morning or Sunday evening is something therapeutic and sometimes when you can’t find yourself in your immediate surrounding the desire to travel becomes immediate and what’s more you might just want to wake up pack up and relocate.

6. You are being stagnant and adamant 

If you are doing this a certain way and there has been no improvement in your social outreach adopt a different technique , if you post only pictures then start posting videos of content work. i would tell you to remain true to yourself in all that you do but ‘fake it till you make it” works so much and along the line what isn't naturally you has a way of letting go on its own. 

To avoid looking random i opted for layering to help step up my monochrome game and accessorising to break up the monochrome.
I chose a basic mono base added the most aesthetically crafted bag that could ever; it i so similar to the Cult Gaia Ark bag that made every fashion girls wardrobe in 2018, although my mum finds it very impractical and i do agree with her on that because your bag should have some level of privacy but this one is just too beautiful it will make you put common sense aside.


As my weekdays is work occupied, i like to roam my city on Saturdays and on this day i found myself in one of those places that exist in the centre of abuja, Wuse 2 but not a lot of people are aware of,  in my head i wanted to wear something very simple and airy so i went for a black net top and white jeans and creepers (basic chic alert style) but in this side of the world properly covered dressing is advised (notice i didn’t say modest- i believe this word makes sense best in individual context) especially if you don’t want to be snickered at in public and accused of overexposure, with that in mind my basic chic outfit was just not proper enough.













The outfit goal immediately was to stay stylish and covered at the same time, so i choose to layer my beach dress-also net but now there's less skin exposure, and the hot Abuja A.K.A Buj (thats what the cool kids call it these days) sun won’t bother me much. i got this beach dress on sale at City park a while back with visiting one of lagos famous seasides in mind but i guess until i actually go to a real beach, it will have to multitask as my fave layer dress and lounge/sleep wear. lol



Do you also shop with places, locations or pictures you will take in mind? how long ago and were you able to use that item for it s purpose or for something else.
I have a post about this coming soon, how effective and detrimental it can be but in the meantime lets share our opinions on that.